Friday, September 21, 2012

not bullied

posted by Sherry Carr. AND I WANTED TO SHARE
Chris was not bullied and called names. He was well loved and respected by all who knew him. The bullying claim is a rumor passed around and propagated by those who do not know including the news channels that helped to spread this rumor to increase viewer interest. One channel has now sent an apology letter to the district that they aired a story with out finding out any of the facts because they wanted it to hit the air so quickly that they did not check out the facts. That is called sensationalism and whether their faux facts hurt anyone or not they do not care. Talk to Chris' friends, his family, his teachers they will tell you what a remarkable young man Chris truly was and how well thought of and beloved he was. Gossip is often more intriguing for some than actual truth. Praise Chris for the terrific young man he was, but do not ridicule his memory by making it sound like he fell prey to mean-spirited students. Do not degrade his family, his friends, his teachers and his school like we would have let harassment go on unattended. The issues that moved Chris to this unfathomable end of his life are far more scary than even bullying. It should make every parent's hair stand on end because we don't know why Chris took this path. Right now there are no indicators to family and friends of why this happened. It would actually be better if we could blame a bully for we would have someone, some thing to attack and hurl our anger at. But no bully means we have to continually look deeper into why a handsome, bright, happy, well-loved kid would make such a misguided, rash decision in one particular moment, on one particular day to such a fatal end. We can't figure it out and it scares us even more because if this caliber of young person with such a bright present and even brighter future felt such a horrific moment of despair can we be comfortable that we know our own children as well as we think we do. I hope one day that it will come to the surface why Chris chose this path for all of us that keep asking ourselves "why", but especially for his family. I was deeply touched by Chris, all the wonderful things people have said I saw in him. I cared for him. He could make others feel special and that was one of the many things that made him so special. Heavens gain is truly our loss. He will always be remembered, missed, and beloved.

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